Let go of frustration with yourself

Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment. Dale Carnegie

One of the most self-destructive feelings we can have is frustration – particularly if it has been around for a while about the same issue. Unfortunately there’s no quick fix to this – especially it involves falling out of love with someone from a previous relationship, generally it’s faster to fall in love than to forget someone.

So, while you’re dealing with these feelings for someone you feel you should be over, how can you at least let go of this frustration with yourself?

Change your perception – Try to see the end of a relationship as a lucky escape and an opportunity for you to jet ahead (even if it hurts)

Cry – It will release your negative feelings and the harmful chemicals hat build up in your body due to stress

Distract yourself – Channel your discontent into an immediate positive action e.g. get involved with charity work

Better yourself – Take time to better yourself. Learn a new skill, avoid dwelling on the skills you never mastered

Count your blessings –Be aware of the present moment and the things you do have control over

Think how far you’ve come – List your accomplishments and work towards building on them. You will have to let go of the discontentment eventually to make space for this self-satisfaction

Challenge yourself – Ask yourself what you miss about that person or thing. Keep questioning it until you get to the bottom of it

Exercise – It’ll decrease stress hormones and increase happy endorphins

Express yourself – Find a creative outlet: blog or paint your frustration away

Grieve – Allow yourself to feel it fully and grieve completely

Vent – Enable yourself to rant about it for a certain period of time before you confront anyone to diffuse hostility and plan a rational confrontation

Visualise – Imagine the anger melting away as an act of kindness to yourself

Take responsibility – Take back the power by taking any responsibility that you can. Focus on what you could have done better

Make a decision – You have three options: Remove yourself from the situation, change it or accept it. Each option will create happiness … holding onto anger/bitterness/resentment/frustration never will

Learn from it – Identify what you learnt from the experience

Be realistic – Remember the good and the bad, exactly as it was. The past is never perfect – acknowledging this may minimise your sense of loss

Let go – Loving yourself means letting go.

Shift your focus – Be aware of when you begin thinking about it, so you can shift your thought process to something more pleasant: like a passion or hobby.

Imagine life 10 years from now – Will this person or issue still be affecting you then? Why or why not?

Take back your control – Make your feelings a decision.