The greatest accomplishment is not in never falling, but in rising again after you fall. Vince Lombardi
Today I’m celebrating! (And it’s not just because it’s Google’s birthday – although, wishing you a very happy birthday today, Google – you have been a fantastic source of information and a great friend to me!)
So … how’s your year going?
Are you still on track with your new years resolutions?
OK, so you probably forgot them by New Years Day … let me guess, too much alcohol? Great excuse!
Anyone who knows me knows my level of self-motivation and determination and this year I’m achieving everything I set out to achieve. I’m checking each and every one of my New Years Resolutions … it’s been one hell of a busy year, let me tell you!
As of this week Happiness Weekly has reached 100,000 people! I don’t advertise, I just blog and every now and then check in with a Facebook page. So I just wanted to say THANK YOU to everyone who is reading Happiness Weekly, or has read Happiness Weekly, and particularly to those of you who stumbled across my page and stayed or the ones who return time and time again without signing up just to see what I’m saying. After almost two years of consistent blogging, this is a fantastic achievement and I couldn’t have done it without YOU! The truth is in the statistics!
Thank you for joining my journey, for accepting me exactly as I am and allowing me to speak my truth. I’m dedicated to Happiness Weekly in a way that you would don’t see – I’m either writing for a blog or I’m thinking what to write next, and it’s one of the best aspects of my life. Happiness Weekly allows me to take every situation that comes at me and turn it into that positive and then enables those sunshine light rays to bounce off me onto the universe and directly onto each of you who are following.
A couple of weeks ago, I did two surveys for Relationship Free, my new venture, as part of a major research assignment. This week I’m opening a survey for you – my dedicated Happiness Weekly readers and followers as I try to get this community a little more active and involved and it’ll help me to deliver more of what you want … and need!
The survey is available here – thank you to everyone who participates: https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/TR8TKN6
OK, so following recent posts and despite my business Relationship Free being my new focus, I made the decision to sign up for another two years with Happiness Weekly. And you may be asking yourself what makes me such a damn expert in happiness when I’ve been sharing some misery of late.
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what makes you happy?
What has to happen for you to be happy?
What does your world look like when you’re happy? How does it feel?
Stay in that moment. How do you look? What are your wearing? What’s your face look like?
Are you perfect? Are you wrinkle-free, super skinny, flushed with money? Or are you seeing yourself just as you are now?
Imagine yourself in that picture, physically, exactly as you are at the moment.
Although there may be a few changes around you, the way you look is who you are today – what we did just then was paint a positive happy picture around your current being.
The message is – you, and the things in your life, don’t have to be perfect to be happy. A lot of people strive for perfection in their quest for happiness and in the process of striving to be completely outstanding, they lose all sense of happiness. They also become numb to the simple pleasures, because they become so fixated that they can’t be happy until they have X, Y and Z.
I am far from perfect. In fact, I’ve made tons of mistakes in my time, and I’ve been open about them! But I’m happy – and I’ve maintained my sense of self and a certain consistent level of happiness, peace and harmony along the way. Sure, I’m not sunshine and rainbows all the time, but majority of the time I am.
You’re probably wondering how this can be given the level of adversity I’ve been through. The answer is: acceptance and gratitude.
I accepted that I would feel scared for a while following domestic violence, so I look at what fear is bringing to my life that is positive. For example, fear is keeping me safe at the moment – so I am thankful.
I accept that I was abused. I hate thinking of myself as a victim – because that’s not who I am – but I accept what happened to me and how it affected me, and I’m thankful that I’m safe now.
I accept that I’m not perfect. I’m adventurous, I take risks, and in the process, I make mistakes. I’m thankful that I have the ability to clearly see and understand the lessons and I can learn from them, and I believe I’ve demonstrated that I have!
And the reason I can accept so readily, is that I can see if it is useful for me or not. If it doesn’t align with my values, then I eject it from my life quite quickly. Values are really important. When we act out, it’s generally because something isn’t aligning with our values and we don’t know what to do with it or how to express it.
The biggest thing I have come to accept – which enables a lot of my happiness – is me. I let myself make mistakes – so long as I find the lessons and learn from them. I love my body, after years of hating it. I laugh at myself, instead of getting embarrassed all the time. I accept myself completely and unconditionally – and I think that’s what people can learn from. In accepting myself completely, I’m able to open up a new world of self-trust and self-forgiveness for when I do fail at something or when crisis does strike.
So what makes me such an expert in happiness? The fact that I can take a positive out of every negative – even the most painful things. This sets me apart. I have developed so much from who I once was and I have a lot of lessons to share.
I know the whole purpose of Happiness Weekly is you guys come here to get help, but this week I was kind of hoping you may be able to assist me?
OK so here’s the thing…
As you know I’m trying to finish off my studies, with the goal in mind of having five positive certificates achieved by New Years Eve, and one of those is an entire new career direction and part of opening Relationship Free.
I have created a survey to form evidence for my Major Research Assessment. And I now just need as many people as I can to participate with their thoughts about relationships. I’m trying to establish if a life coach would be beneficial for someone suffering a relationship-related trauma or issue.
The survey is available here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/Y8B7W3V
And it closes on Friday, 26 September at 5pm (Sydney, Australia time). Please share it with your Facebook friends and family etc. The more people who participate, the more people I will be able to assist ultimately.
It’ll take about two minutes of your time.
BIG thank you in advance to everyone who helps me. Love makes the world go around! xx