Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out. John Wooden
There is no time limit to getting over things. When things fall apart, they fall apart to varying degrees and some people can block their emotions out, appear to take things in their stride and get on with things like it never happened. Others, like me, are more sensitive and need time and space to rebuild and move forward – this blog is for YOU!
It’s unfortunate, but we can’t control the events that happen to us. BUT! We can control our reactions and attitudes to the events that happen to us – and this means we have control over how things affect us. You are the author of your own life story and you always have a lot more control than what you think you do at times of despair.
With this in mind, you should gain the confidence to take your first steps to solving a bad situation and moving ahead. Focus on the things you can control – no matter how small, and start taking steps in that direction. Once you start resolving a few of the smaller issues, you’ll gain the confidence to start tackling the bigger ones.
When you’re trying to overcoming painful situations quickly, consider these tips:
* Focus on the things you can change. There are lots of things out of our control and instead of focusing on these, start focussing on the things you can change
* You can’t start the next chapter when you’re still immersed in the past one, so cut some ties and get set to start again! This means delete phone numbers, clear your email inbox, block some people off Facebook… relocate, change jobs, whatever it takes! Embrace change – because it’s the only way forward. Something needs to change in order for you to feel better. Rebuilding is an opportunity and new adventure
* Change your attitude – start expecting the best! It’s easy to get bogged down in the pain we’re feeling and the situation we’re stuck in – but it’s just as easy to change our perception. Remind yourself that happiness is a choice
* Surround yourself with positive and successful people, who share your interests and will move you ahead. Don’t be afraid to rely on the kindness of strangers or acquaintances – it’s a great way to meet new people and do new things
* Don’t push yourself too hard. There’s no time limit to getting over things so don’t get frustrated with yourself when you’re still hurting a week or a month later, it will only make you feel worse. Let yourself grieve and don’t make rash decisions
* Learn from the situation. Be mindful of what actually happened and stay realistic – do not take on all the blame. Brainstorm what you’d do differently next time and what you can do now to improve things – this is the key to rebuilding and taking positive steps forward.
Another good way to move ahead is think about other people. Thank your friends for their support by going out of your way to show your gratitude. Concentrate on being the best you that you can be! It’s refreshing to think if you make someone’s dreams come true – they will never forget you. There’s more to life than anything that drags you down – start making the changes and jet ahead – before you know it, the past will be behind you. Instead of being miserable about something in the past, find the next thing to get excited about and keep living!